Stop losing yourself to someone who keeps you guessing.
Break the checking, hoping, and overthinking cycle and finally feel emotionally in control again.
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3,000+ people helped · 1 minute to join
I have been in back to back relationships my entire life up until my most recent breakup, and was struggling to move on or find meaning in life.
Ashley, US
The real problem
You know it hurts. So why can’t you let go?
You check their profile, reread old messages, and replay every signal. You know it is keeping you stuck, but in the moment checking feels like relief.
Knowing the connection is unhealthy has not been enough. Their attention is still the fastest way your body knows to feel okay.
Your mood belongs to them
One reply lifts you. One silence ruins the day. Their attention has become emotional oxygen.
Everything else is falling apart
You’re losing sleep, work, friendships, and self-respect because of their mixed signals.
There’s a name for this: Limerence. It’s a pattern your brain learned. And it’s not your fault.
Here’s how it shows up:
You think about them all day long
Ordinary moments keep getting hijacked by the same person and story.
You wait all day for their attention
A message or sign becomes the thing that decides whether you feel okay.
You analyze every single signal
Every silence, like, and memory turns into evidence for hope or rejection.
You keep finding new reasons to hope
A memory, coincidence, or tiny sign becomes proof that the story may not be over.
What is limerence?
Limerence is when you cannot stop thinking about someone because you never know where you stand with them.
The uncertainty keeps pulling you back, even when the connection hurts.
A reply, memory, profile check, or fantasy gives you brief relief. Your brain learns to chase the next signal whenever discomfort rises.
And even though you know the connection is hurting you, you still wait for their text. Your body chases hope before your mind remembers the pain.
You are not weak or broken. You simply lack the awareness, practice, and support. And when your nervous system tries to heal itself, it gets trapped seeking comfort from the same person causing the pain.
Your healing does not depend on what they do next.
You do not need one final answer, message, or apology to begin getting your attention, boundaries, and emotional steadiness back.
This is what your healed self looks like:
Your mind finally gets quiet
You can move through a day without every empty moment becoming a thought about them.
You stop chasing temporary relief
A silence, profile view, or old memory no longer decides what you do next.
You learn to trust yourself again
Your boundaries stop becoming negotiable whenever the discomfort rises.
Your own life expands again
Your energy returns to friendships, purpose, routines, and a future that is yours.
Stuck & spiraling
Grounded & freeHealing begins with one decision.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life letting their silence decide how you feel?
Or would you rather make this the year your attention and future belong to you again?
Stuck & spiralingGrounded & free
Why does Unfixated exist?
Hi, I’m Nour
I’m the founder of Unfixated. And just like you, I know what it is like to become completely consumed by one person.
I struggled with limerence, anxious attachment, and never feeling like I was enough. I kept losing myself in relationships.
Eventually, I had enough. I studied psychology at the University of Amsterdam, hired a confidence coach, and immersed myself in everything I could find about love and happiness.
I built a framework that helped me quiet the obsession, feel secure, and come back to myself.
And after helping more than 3,000 people understand their patterns and build healthier relationships, that work now became Unfixated.
Three things that make letting go possible.
Awareness pulls you out of autopilot. Practice makes the new response daily. Support holds you steady when it feels like too much.
The awareness that breaks the trance
Most of the loop runs on autopilot. We train you to catch it mid-urge, in that one conscious moment where you can still choose.
Opening their profile again
“Wait. What am I doing?”
The practice that rewires the habit
Know exactly what to do every single day, until pausing and returning to yourself becomes the habit instead of chasing relief.
The support that answers at 11 PM
Trained professionals and people who get it, holding your hand before the urge turns into another message or search.
I am about to check their profile again. What do I do?
Awareness, daily practice, and professional support.
That is the foundation of Unfixated.
That’s why we built Unfixated.
A complete path for understanding limerence, calming the hard moments, and learning how to come back to yourself with support.
A guided recovery method
A clear sequence that helps you understand the loop, respond differently, and rebuild trust in yourself.
Community + expert support
A private place to be understood and get grounded help with the situations no prerecorded lesson can predict.
One day, unfixated
9:12 AM
The morning is yours
You wake up and check in with yourself, not on them.
2:46 PM
The urge passes
A silence is just a silence. You feel the pull, name it, and it lets go.
This is where Unfixated takes you: ordinary days that belong to you again.
Everything you need to stop doing this alone.
A structured method, real support, and practical tools in one private recovery space.
The ANCHOR Method
Six simple steps that carry you from the grip of the loop back into your own life.
Feel it,
don’t feed it.
Daily Check-ins
A few focused minutes a day that retrain the pull, until coming back to yourself is the reflex.
Weekly live sessions
Live sessions with Dr. Elisa every week: bring the moment you are stuck on and leave with your next step.
We’ll help you come back to yourself.
By the end of the program, you wake up thinking about your own day, feel steady when they cross your mind, and trust yourself around them again.
By the end, you’ll have:
Unfixated comes with these practical tools.
Keep them close for the moments when emotions are high and thinking clearly is hardest.
The loving community
From day one, you also join our loving community. You never do this alone.
The Broken Heart Remedy
A proven approach to heal and get over any breakup, by coach Omer.
The Unfixated Notebook
A physical Unfixated notebook, shipped to you free.
Use them whenever an urge, message, memory, or difficult night threatens to undo your progress.
One decision. Two ways to begin.
Choose the option that fits your life. Both include the complete program, every tool, the community, and expert support.
Pick your payment option.
Pay $397 once, or spread it across three monthly payments of $149. The founding list gets the first invitation when enrollment opens.
No payment today · founding list receives first access
One payment of $397 for the complete Unfixated experience.
Save $50 compared with the payment plan.
- The complete ANCHOR Method
- Daily check-ins
- Weekly live sessions with Dr. Elisa
- Loving private community
- Emergency urge and relapse protocols
- Broken Heart Remedy
- Physical Unfixated Notebook
Pay $397 once. Or choose three monthly payments of $149.
All your questions answered.
Everything you need to know before deciding whether Unfixated is right for you.
The goal is not to forget them. It is to stop losing yourself.
Unfixated is new. The work behind it is not. These are real Trustpilot reviews from people previously helped by Nour and his team.
Their words are why Unfixated combines a clear method, practical tools, and human support.
Nick SaliarisUS
Review on Trustpilot
This community is an amazing community that supports each other through understanding and compassion. It's one of the greatest things I have discovered to help me through my journey.
Sylvie WatkinsCA
Review on Trustpilot
The course was so helpful and the community is very supportive. The experts are also full of insight and helpful experience, offering a set of tools to use along the journey.
Ashley WongUS
Review on Trustpilot
This work was the only thing that helped me after trying therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. Their professional staff are INCREDIBLE and create such a healing space.
Nick SaliarisUS
Review on Trustpilot
This community is an amazing community that supports each other through understanding and compassion. It's one of the greatest things I have discovered to help me through my journey.
Sylvie WatkinsCA
Review on Trustpilot
The course was so helpful and the community is very supportive. The experts are also full of insight and helpful experience, offering a set of tools to use along the journey.
Ashley WongUS
Review on Trustpilot
This work was the only thing that helped me after trying therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. Their professional staff are INCREDIBLE and create such a healing space.
Carmen HenkelUS
Review on Trustpilot
It also gave me tools to change and break the cycles that I had been repeating. I feel more empowered to create a better life for myself.
Jo FoxUS
Review on Trustpilot
After my breakup, I was absolutely devastated and depressed. I joined the community and started trying to understand why it ended, grieve it…
Allison PowellUS
Review on Trustpilot
This is a great space to learn more about yourself, get support from others, and navigate breakups, new relationships, or just how to be single and secure.
Carmen HenkelUS
Review on Trustpilot
It also gave me tools to change and break the cycles that I had been repeating. I feel more empowered to create a better life for myself.
Jo FoxUS
Review on Trustpilot
After my breakup, I was absolutely devastated and depressed. I joined the community and started trying to understand why it ended, grieve it…
Allison PowellUS
Review on Trustpilot
This is a great space to learn more about yourself, get support from others, and navigate breakups, new relationships, or just how to be single and secure.
Nick SaliarisUS
Review on Trustpilot
This community is an amazing community that supports each other through understanding and compassion. It's one of the greatest things I have discovered to help me through my journey.
Sylvie WatkinsCA
Review on Trustpilot
The course was so helpful and the community is very supportive. The experts are also full of insight and helpful experience, offering a set of tools to use along the journey.
Ashley WongUS
Review on Trustpilot
This work was the only thing that helped me after trying therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. Their professional staff are INCREDIBLE and create such a healing space.
Nick SaliarisUS
Review on Trustpilot
This community is an amazing community that supports each other through understanding and compassion. It's one of the greatest things I have discovered to help me through my journey.
Sylvie WatkinsCA
Review on Trustpilot
The course was so helpful and the community is very supportive. The experts are also full of insight and helpful experience, offering a set of tools to use along the journey.
Ashley WongUS
Review on Trustpilot
This work was the only thing that helped me after trying therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. Their professional staff are INCREDIBLE and create such a healing space.
Carmen HenkelUS
Review on Trustpilot
It also gave me tools to change and break the cycles that I had been repeating. I feel more empowered to create a better life for myself.
Jo FoxUS
Review on Trustpilot
After my breakup, I was absolutely devastated and depressed. I joined the community and started trying to understand why it ended, grieve it…
Allison PowellUS
Review on Trustpilot
This is a great space to learn more about yourself, get support from others, and navigate breakups, new relationships, or just how to be single and secure.
Carmen HenkelUS
Review on Trustpilot
It also gave me tools to change and break the cycles that I had been repeating. I feel more empowered to create a better life for myself.
Jo FoxUS
Review on Trustpilot
After my breakup, I was absolutely devastated and depressed. I joined the community and started trying to understand why it ended, grieve it…
Allison PowellUS
Review on Trustpilot
This is a great space to learn more about yourself, get support from others, and navigate breakups, new relationships, or just how to be single and secure.
Your life should belong to you again.
You do not need to wait for one more sign, message, or explanation before you begin coming back to yourself.
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